We've all seen something like this by now: How could anyone support a hypocritical, lying piece of garbage scumbag like Josh Duggar!? Is his wife an absolute fool to not leave this sad excuse for a husband?!
I, like most humans on the planet, think that his porn addiction and adultery are tragic and terrible and that adultery is one of the most damaging things a marriage can go through.
Isn’t it interesting though how people who normally disagree about almost everything from politics to religion to economics to the environment somehow magically come together to slaughter the person who has ‘fallen from grace’?
For example, many morally conservative people (the no pre-marital sex, believe that having sex consummates a relationship, sex is to be had only inside of marriage, one sexual partner for life via marriage, marriage is between a man and woman, religion and faith are important, etc. crowd) will line up to skewer Duggar because of his reprehensible behavior. Note: you have to say the word ‘reprehensible’ in that last sentence so hard that your jowls shake back and forth like they would if said by a really offended super old dude. The old guy in my head is white, about 50 pounds overweight, pretty ignorant, wears a cheap suit that has a vest and lives somewhere without the internet… but feel free to make up your own guy. To these people Duggar has crossed their line of what constitutes being a ‘good person’. Even worse to this crowd is that he has made their religious ‘club’ look bad, which in turn makes them look bad. For this unforgiveable sin they will distance themselves as much as possible by decrying how terrible his behavior has been and make sure everyone knows that Duggar doesn’t represent their religion, group or cause.
On the other side of the moral universe, many morally liberal people (the teen sex is ok as long as it’s ‘safe’, multiple sexual partners prior to marriage is cool and fun, Steve and Steve should get married, religion and faith are mostly irrelevant and unimportant, etc. crowd) will really skewer Duggar not only for his behavior but even more so for his hypocrisy. This crowd will certainly yell the loudest and go on and on about what a dirt bag he is and they will draw the conclusion that his religion or faith practice must be broken and/or stupid because Duggar is proof it doesn’t work. How could their club’s posterboy do something so ‘reprehensible’ as represent himself as a ‘good person’ while in reality he was breaking his own stated moral code? This time, you have to say ‘reprehensible’ with something of a younger high-pitched female voice that has one of those accents no one can figure out. My young judgmental girl voice is, well, it’s basically a Kardashian or any one of those other reality tv idiots you may see on an episode of The Housewives of Wherever ranting in a shrill voice about something you really couldn’t give a crap about. Again, feel free to make up your own judge for this one. Oh, I also think it’s important that this judge relies solely on social media for all their news.
SO, I’m not casting any stones at Josh Duggar cause no one, not even very very VERY important ME, needs to remind him or notify him that what he did was wrong and that his life and certainly his marriage will never be the same. A matter of fact, he knows or will soon know these truths at a depth and level I can never know, cause I’m not him. We’re all people and we all suck sometimes. His wife and children will have a whole host of crap to deal with personally and as a family because of what he’s done. None of us know enough to pretend to know what is going on in that relationship, but we all can sympathize with the pain they must be experiencing because of his actions. If wife chooses to stick it out with him, well then good for her. Who am I to tell her what she should do? Nobody, that’s who. Why? Cause I don’t know enough. If a dad is driving and causes a one car traffic accident that gravely injures everyone on board, we don’t kick the dad as he’s lying on the ground at the accident site, tell him he’s a dirt bag moron driver, write articles about how his family should get rid of him and leave him to bleed out on the side of the road. No, we do the humane thing that all of us on Team Human have decided makes the most sense- We do what we can to help everyone who has been hurt from his bad driving get put back together, not ripped apart. Duggar's choices go beyond being a bad driver but the point remains that making efforts to destroy someone who has already done a lot to destroy themselves is prideful and ironically, hypocritical.
Whenever I try to draw the line on what is worse behavior than whatever I’ve done or try to decide what hypocrisy is worse than the hypocrite I’ve been in my life, I stop becoming a compassionate human capable of forgiveness and forgiving. I start becoming a judgmental ass who has to insult another to make myself feel better or kick someone while they’re down to build myself up, just like a bully on the playground. And that’s just... reprehensible.