I challenge you to this simple exercise (push-ups are not required but encouraged). You don’t exercise?! Ok, we’ll talk about that later. But how many could you do in a minute if you had to? Can you open a jar of pickles or does dad have to do it? Who cares.
Anyway, good news is… you have all the answers (but you already knew that) necessary to do this and it will only cost you 3-10 minutes of your life but may cost you much more if you skip it. What you will get out of this is a deeper understanding of who you are and who you are becoming. My hope is you also get some good questions to consider. Here we go:
1) Across the top of a page write the 3-7 personal characteristics you value most. Ex. Honesty, Healthy, Considerate, Positive, Fun, Encouraging, Dead Sexy, etc.
2) In the left margin, write your name Ex. Beetle Juice. (google it)
3) On a scale of 1-10 under each category, score yourself in each area.
4) In the left margin under your name, write the name of the five closest people in your life. This could include family members, friends, co-workers, etc. Anyone with whom you closely associate, spend time with and share life experience.
5) On a scale of 1-10 under each category, score each of your friends, best you are able, in each area you already chose at the top of the page.
If you average the scores of your associates in each area, you’ll notice that your personal scores are very close to the average for that category. Why is that? In short, like begets like, you attract what you already are and you are who you hang around.
The people you associate with will determine whether you grow and improve or shrink and decline in all areas of your life. Recognize that we are all very influenceable and that our inputs will determine our outputs. Guard your mind and time carefully. We are building who we are and who we will become every day by every interaction we have.
Moreover, the choices you’re making as a young person/adult are going to impact your life for a long time. Who you choose to hang out with, is and will continue to be, one of the most impactful string of decisions you make. Make wise ones, we’re all counting on you to not become an idiot. Simply ask yourself what benefits you get from each relationship and you'll be on the right track.
P.S. ‘beget’ IS a word, look it up